My husband’s ex-girlfriend tormenting me

Dear Pastor,

I am a 30-year-old woman and I am a peaceful person. I have been married for two years. Someone in the community told my husband that I was cheating on him. That was a lie. I found out who was the person who lied on me. She is one of my husband’s past girlfriends. I found out that he dated her for about two years, but he found faults in her so he did not marry her.

She has not given up on him, and she is doing everything to break us up. One day, I got a telephone call and the person attempted to disguise their voice, so I recorded it and asked one of my friends to listen. My friend said that it sounded like my husband’s ex-girlfriend, so she is jealous of me. I did not do anything that caused my husband to break up with her.

When I played the message to my husband, he said ‘I wonder who that could be?’ But he knew it was the girl from the way he reacted. I searched his phone and got the girl’s number, and I called her and told her that I had nothing to do with the breaking up of my husband and her. I told her that, if she has issues, she should settle that with my husband. She denied that she called me but, since I have called her, I have not heard from her again.

My husband was not pleased to hear that I called her. I did not take my husband away from this girl. Therefore, she should not be harassing me.

E.

Dear E.,

This girl knows what she has lost and she was only trying to see if she could drive a wedge between you and your husband. However, now that you know that she is the person who called you, and you responded, I hope that you would not call her again. She should stand her losses.

You should try your very best to take care of your husband and to live in peace with everyone; including the young woman who has tried to make mischief. Perhaps your husband used to take very good care of her and she has not been able to cope very well with her loss. She misses the man and the money that evidently has dried up.

I hope that she will find another man and move on. Your husband finds faults in her, so I hope that she would correct these faults before she gets another man.

Pastor