I want a man call me ‘darling’ and ‘honey’

Dear Pastor,

Thank you for the work you have been doing for many years. I am in my late 40s and I have five children.

All my children were fathered by different men, which could cause some people to assume that I was a bad woman when I was younger. I don't consider myself bad, but I had a very strong sex drive and it was not always easy to resist men.

For a long time, one of my children's fathers promised me that he would marry me and I believed him. He even bought me a ring, and I kept that ring until his child was a teenager. By the time the child was 16, the ring could not fit my finger as I had gained weight. I eventually sold it because I needed the money to assist my daughter.

One of my children was fathered by a policeman and another by a soldier. The army man wasn't bad, as he tried to support his child. And although he was a soldier, he was not rough.

I come from a farming community; every week I can expect something from my father for the children. I respect my father so very much. We are a close family, so my siblings have helped me with the children.

I had put on a lot of weight, but now I look like skin and bones because I am stressed.

I am now with another man. You may think that it is time for me to give up on men, but I am not giving up as yet. I still feel for love and companionship. I am in a better job now. I don't listen to the nonsense that men tell me nowadays. I know better now. I hope that I can find a man who will love me and not fool me anymore. I would like to hear a man call me 'darling' and 'honey'. I just like to hear when couple refers to each other in those terms.

Thanks for reading my letter, Pastor.

Anonymous

Dear Writer,

Stress can be a big killer. It can have an adverse effect on any relationship that is not going well, and on one's health. But one can control stress. If you are with your spouse and your spouse is trampling on your pride, it may make you develop bad thoughts about yourself. It can affect your self-esteem. You can talk to yourself and assure yourself that nothing is wrong with you. A good night's rest is important in fighting stress.

Over the years, you might have tried to please others, including your boyfriends. You will have to stop trying to please others and please yourself. Put yourself first in everything and you would be a happier person.

Dress well and eat well, and please, do not forget to exercise. One more thing before I go, learn to go to bed early.

Pastor