Girlfriend thinks I have to get re-baptised

November 15, 2021

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 years old. I was baptised at a young age in the Seventh-day Adventist Church, but I wouldn't say I am a Christian. I attend church occasionally.

I have been dating this girl who attends a Sunday church. She is a deaconess. Her family accepts me because I am a hard worker and a well-mannered young man. Recently, we were talking about our future and she said I should be re-baptised. I quoted from Ephesians 4:5 which says there is only one baptism. She said that my baptism does not count because I was baptised in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit; I was not baptised in the name of Jesus.

I did my research and found what Matthew Chapter 28 says about baptism. It showed me what Acts Chapter 2 says and since then, there has been tension between us. She won't let go and neither will I. So, Pastor, I am asking for your help.


Dear J.D.,

I doubt very much that you will be able to convince this young woman that she should accept your baptism and you are not willing to accept her teachings and to be re-baptised.

I will not try to tell you what to do. Salvation is not in the mode of baptism. But, every week, there are preachers who emphasise baptism and say that anyone who was not baptised in the name of Jesus is lost because they are not baptised the right way.

I can only tell you, young man, that no one would enter into God's kingdom without embracing Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour, whether he or she was baptised in Father, Son and Holy Ghost or in the name of Jesus Christ. Therefore, it is unnecessary for you and your girlfriend to be arguing over the mode of baptism. That is all I am prepared to say right now.


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