Neighbour convinced that I want her man

November 12, 2021

Dear Pastor,

I am writing this letter to you and I hope that my neighbour will see it. I came to live in this area but it seems as if strangers are not welcome here.

I bought this little home and I am trying to live as a decent young woman. I don't interfere with anybody. I have a man who does not live with me. He is a good man. He is not the father of my children. My children's father is abroad. He lives there. Since coming to this area, I have been accused by one of my neighbours of having an affair with her man. Pastor, it is not true. What is true is that her man and I have become good friends. Whenever he sees me, he calls out to me and we talk at my fence. He has never been in my house. But this woman has it to say that her man doesn't want me, but I am pushing myself on him. She even told my boyfriend that her man and I are having an affair and that other men come to see me when he is not around.

I told her boyfriend to warn her because if she doesn't stop calling my name and accusing me for what I have not done, I am going to beat her. All this woman saw me doing was talking to her man. I am a grown woman. I don't have to hide and talk to anybody. Everybody in the community knows that she is a troublemaker. So, I am warning her to stop scandalising my name and mind her own business.


Dear I.G.,

Don't waste your time reacting to your neighbour. Evidently, she doesn't like you. She doesn't have anything to do and she sees you as a threat. Perhaps you are a very attractive and sexy woman and she believes that if her man is talking to you, you are going to woo him, and she will be left without a man. So she feels that the way to stop the friendship between her man and you is to destroy your reputation in the area. You do not need to lower your standard by reacting to this woman or by threatening to beat her. You do not need to lift your smallest finger.

I hope that your boyfriend does not believe this woman. You should not try to prevent her from saying what she wants to say. The woman is jealous of you. She will get tired and she will stop. Continue to be a decent woman and take care of your children and yourself.


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